Love vs Emotions

                                                                                                                                                        
Love Versus Emotions… Is Love something that can be controlled?  Can you stop love dead in its tracks?  Can you just pull over and say “hey love I’m done with you, get out of my life”?  What about emotions?  Is Emotions something that can be controlled? Can you stop emotions dead in its tracks? Can you pull over and say, “ Hey emotions, stop making me feel this way”?

Emotions is said to be the psychophysiological experience of an individual’s state of mind.  Based on the article Emotion Of Love, Purest Motive Force by Enoch Tan, he explains, “Emotion in the purest form is simply Energy in motion”.  He goes on to say something I find quite interesting which is that “you may not be conscious of an emotion but it stills runs by itself in your subconscious” and that “layers of emotions can override the feeling of love”.

I happen to believe that Love can’t be controlled but Emotions can. Too many people in the world have no control over their emotions.  Maybe we would have had less wars, less crime, less disasters in our biosphere had someone regulated their emotions.  Too may individuals allow their emotions to control them instead of them taking control of it.  They give the word emotions way too much power.  So much power, it often over-powers love.  Love has no wins, when an emotion comes inside to play.

The real question is….Is Love an Emotion? Or is Love the result of an Emotion?  Or better yet is an Emotion the result of Love? 

Love vs Lust

Love vs. Lust…How many of you know the difference between Love and Lust?  How many times have you been in a relationship and realized after the break up that you really didn’t love that person?  Lust is defined as an emotional force that is associated with thinking and fantasizing about desires in a sexual way.  Many women that are in relationships that end up strictly sexual, often misconstrue their feelings to be that of Love.    Lust is the initial feeling that attracts you to someone, and can last for a very long time. 


On askmen.com, in an article entitled Are you in Love or in Lust?, it calls lust the ground zero of your harmones, which is natures way of bringing two people together to mate.  The article goes on to state that lust is truly blind and that many men are in love with lust; lust allows for men to throw all reason and logic out the door. Dr. John Marsden, director of the National Addiction Center feels that lust is like a drug, and that it keeps you wanting more.

Both Love and Lust are very powerful, yet dangerous emotions. Both can have you messed up and in trouble.  So Be Very, Very Careful of the L-Words.
 

Love vs Lust

	Love	Lust
Person to Person:	Making it work for both involved	Selfish concerns dominate
Symptoms:	Connection of your soul with someone else's. It's settling your differences, dealing with conflicts as one person, not two separate entities.	The desire and belief that everything is yours. No thought put into the other persons feeling or cares.
Attribute:	Not expecting anything in return and desiring the best for the other person	Caring about some thing or some person because of what it or he or she can give to us.
Definition:	Constellation of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection or profound oneness	Any intense desire or craving for self gratification including sex
Meaning:	A tender, passionate affection for another person.	Intense sexual desire
Interdependency:	Cannot be sustained without communication and some level of physical attraction.	Not connected with love
Feelings associated with:	a euphoric feeling	Focused Attention on sex
Sub-Categories:	Romantic Love, Attachment, Passion, intimacy, commitment	Sexual desire
Associated with:	Emotionally and intellectually compatible	Physical chemistry

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Love vs Lust
Emotion Commotion, Love vs Lust
The Psychology of Love vs Lust

Love vs. My Mind

Love (Heart) vs. The Mind…The heart has no brain.  Therefore your mind is smarter than your heart.  So why do we expect it to make the right decisions for us? Why do we think it will provide us with good, moral, sound, sane judgment?  I try to often calculate my decisions solely based on my mind and not by my heart.  My heart makes me want to cut someone.  My mind tells me I might go to jail (sorry I had an outer-body thought).  My heart tells me that love hurts and it’s ok to be hurt.  My mind says you are a great person, and it’ s not ok for you or your heart to be hurt.  My heart tries to think of ways to trick my mind into taking its side.  My mind tries to find ways to make me heartless.  I think it’s going to be up to my soul to step up and set these guys straight.



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Love Vs. War Vs. Heart Vs. Mind
Heart versus Mind.. Why don't they agree?
Heart vs Mind

Love vs Loyalty

Love vs. Loyalty….I’m going to go with Loyalty as my choice over Love.  I’m not saying I don’t want to be loved, I’m merely saying I’d rather have someone be loyal to me than love me.  We all watch Jerry Springer on TV, mothers sleep with their son-in-laws, fathers sleep with their daughters, etc.,, and Yes that is ‘SICK’ love..but nonetheless, it’s love. Loyalty by definition is faithfulness, devotion, trustworthiness, constancy,  reliability, allegiance,  fidelity, and dependability.  Who wouldn’t want all those things as appose to Love, which provides for adoration, affection, and being liked.  Loyalty seems to possess the right , automatic dose of LOVE needed to function in a sane manner.

As Larry Pesavento would have it in his article entitled Love and Loyalty, men are the true loyalists and women are the true lovers.  He goes on to explain that men receive the 'hand-me-down' of being loyal from their ancestors and that men show their love through their loyalty. He also states that many men fall out of love with their wives because they become disloyal.  I agree with Mr. Pesavento's application of loyalty and men, but I somewhat disagree where woman are concerned. I hold loyalty as way more important than I hold love. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and my friends; but I am a firm believer that love will allow you to do great things as well as the most horrible things.  Love is an emotion.  Emotions are one of the main causes of disaster in our world.  The one statement that I will 100% standby from his article, is that there is "no love, without loyalty", and I will add there is no 'REAL' LOVE, without LOYALTY.

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Lectures By Charlie Lute on Loyalty

Love vs Money

Love vs. Money….Would you prefer Love over Money? Or Money over Love?  I’m a little split on my feelings about this topic.  Couldn’t money buy me love?  It almost always seems that wealthy people has a better choice of getting the guy or girl of his/her dreams.  Question is, are they truly ever happy or do they just ‘deal’ with it for the money?  Love as a choice on the contrary, can be everlasting and true.  Love is supposed to withstand all obstacles.  Love is supposed to get you through the hard times. But I’ve also seen many relationships go haywire because there is no money.  It seemed when the money was there, they were happy but as soon as times got hard, someone lost a job or so, the paradise was over.  Many relationships have never recovered from the loss of money.
What's actually ironic is that I read an article that stated 'Marriage Is About Love, Divorce Is About Money'. This statement couldn't be more true.

I recall the romantic comedy made in 1993, For Love Or Money, where Michael J. Fox had a regular job at a hotel, and he worked really hard to save his money to start a new company.  After finding a financial backer to jumpstart his new business, he finds out that the 'backer' was sleeping with the love of his life.  What are the odds of having to choose between the future of your pockets and the future of your heart?  What would you choose?

LOVE INTRO

Why is LOVE                                                                     such a powerful word? Is LOVE really that serious? Does LOVE cost us important morals and values we have abided by most of our lives?  Does LOVE allow for the end results of our decisions to remain ethical?   Does anyone really know the true definition of LOVE? Wikipedia defines Love as an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment....representing kindness, compassion, and affection. Does anyone really know the true feeling of LOVE?   I invite you to take a journey of LOVE THOUGHTS with me.  Share your thoughts, as I share mine.

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